I just ate a bunch of spicy wings and weak beer, it's 12:45am, and I need to be at work by 8am tomorrow morning. So, I'll be brief. But I had to get this out...
I don't want to unload on my children what my parents unloaded on me. Wounds can seamlessly transcend generations as children who are hurt grow up into parents who pass the scarring on to their own children. At some point, things have to stop. I wasn't abused or anything as a kid (in the legal sense of that word) but I'm definitely going to be a different kind of father to my kids than my father was to me. Today, I believe I can do this. A few years ago, I wasn't so sure. I was so unsure of myself, that I doubted whether I should have kids at all. But my wife has helped me to understand that parenthood for both of us is important for dozens of reasons I'm sure I'll go into in a future blog post. She has faith that we'll do a good job.
I agree with her, but sometimes, my unresolved feelings towards my own parents resurfaces. And along with them come my doubts about my own parental abilities. And that brings me to my movie choices tonight. Both deal with the love/hate parent issues, and both strike an emotional chord with me. Especially
Big Fish.


I'm an occasional Tim Burton fan. Beetlejuice was a masterpiece, but Planet of the Apes and Sleepy Hollow?! So I was skeptical about Big Fish, especially as I went to see it with my mother. But the experience was incredible. One of the reasons I am SUCH a movie fan is that on rare occasions theater will rise to the level of quality literature or fine poetry. Sometimes I can walk out with a glimmer of personal clarity. This was one such occasion. And, although my mother was probably in her own world reliving some unresolved issue with her own parents, I think I left the theater understanding her just a little bit more than when we walked in. Anyone with parents should see this movie. Anyone with parental issues should ABSOLUTELY see this movie. AND, it's family-friendly.
Igby Goes Down is the second one. And I rethinking whether I should have included it. It's not a favorite of mine, but it still gets at my parental conflict focus. It's like an average-ish film version of Catcher in the Rye, but with a Culkin in the lead role. Far from a classic, but still worth a watch if you get a chance.
Now if you'll excuse me, now that I've purged, I've got to sleep. I've got to
pwn noobs in the morning.